Freakishly Long Fingers Required

If you are squeamish about discussions of delicate lady parts or feminine hygiene issues, consider yourself warned!

Before I went out of town last month, I went shopping for the various items I would need on my trip. Since I was expecting my period, I intended to buy tampons, which, since the birth of baby number two, have been less than effective and let’s just say that I now know why they make them in “super plus” absorbency. Heh. So not funny.

Instead softcup photoAnyway, as I was perusing the feminine products aisle, I saw these Instead Softcups. Basically, they’re like diaphragms; a soft rubbery bowl-like cup with a flexible rim that suctions up to cover your cervix but instead of blocking sperm, it’s primary purpose is to catch blood from the cervix during your period. I know…gross, right? But for people like me that have heavy flow and ruin half a dozen pair of underwear every month, it sounded fantabulous! And how convenient for my vacation!

Let me just cut to the chase and tell you that I had ZERO success with these things. The outer ring is8a_2.JPG waaay too wide and not as flexible as the diaphragm I used to use and no matter how many times I inserted it, it wouldn’t quite suction up like it was supposed to. I concluded that my really long fingers are just not long enough. Frankly, I think E.T.’s hands might be best suited for these. I finally gave up after trying in vain to use one of these for a good 15 minutes. I went ahead and used one of the few tampons and pantiliners I brought with me, thinking I could get more later at a nearby store.

Well, helloooooo! it turns out that this hotel, situated in a business park area, was nowhere near a convenience store or pharmacy. The front deskperson directed me to housekeeping and a nice lady brought me super plus tampons from HER PERSONAL STASH, as well as a very large plastic bag full of the kind they use in vending machines. How cool was that? I gave her a big tip as she literally saved my ass, my underwear, my jeans and everything else.

But the Instead Softcups were a huge disappointment and I’m not sure if I’m up for trying them again, even in the privacy (heh…what privacy?) of my own home unless I somehow grow some freakishly long fingers. Of course, you may have better luck than I did and I encourage you to try your hand at them (har har) if you are so inclined but personally, I think that something that has your hands covered with blood while trying to insert it is enough of a compromise. It shouldn’t be even remotely difficult to use, even for a spaz like me.

Izzy is a work-at-home mom of two young children. When she’s not designing or copywriting for money, she can usually be found writing for free at her personal blog, IzzyMom, managing Props & Pans, or working on something for her other side gigs. You will never, ever find her eating a pickle.

30 Comments

cameo | 2006-08-22 08:54:32

i had heard about these things. weird.
i’l stick with the super-plus, and a big bottle of spray-n-wash.

 
cmhl | 2006-08-22 11:40:56

are you familiar with “the diva”? same theory, same disasterous results.

 
Pattie | 2006-08-22 12:07:08

Thank God for great housekeepers!
I must admit, that product sounded a bit intriguing until I got to the part where they don’t work! And believe me, I don’t have freakishly long fingers, either.

 
chris | 2006-08-22 12:18:06

I wish you had asked me… lisa had to go buy me a SUPER HUGE box of tampons when I ran out. remember when she tried to steal that one of yours … it was for me LOL.

And I had the same luck with those things. I fear that if I somehow did get it up high enough I’d need a visit to my OB to get it back out.

 
Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah | 2006-08-22 12:22:04

I thought they discontinued those things. I only know one person who was successful with them. I never tried them though - it kind of freaks me out, the idea of it all pooling up in a cup. Ew.

 
Chase | 2006-08-22 13:01:59

Yeah, I’ve heard horror stories about these things. Dawn (blondeandherblog) told a hilarious story of one getting stuck and her having to call her husband in to help get it out. CAN YOU IMAGINE?! Hahah!!

*sigh*

I’m sticking with tampooons.

 
TB | 2006-08-22 13:17:02

Not to mention how do you get the full one out without spillage of whatever is inside. It just sounds messy and hard to use. Obviously developed by a man.

 
Mother | 2006-08-22 13:37:31

I just don’t get how they would actually work. And the thought of an ob gives me the eebies - well, not really, but I think it’s the way my cervix is positioned - makes putting those suckers in a bit of a disaster.

I’ll stick with tampons.

 
Mrs. Harridan | 2006-08-22 15:01:20

I’ve used these quite a bit in the past, and while they do take a little getting used to, I didn’t have any real problems. Obviously, for a start, you have to be comfortable touching your lady parts for it to be a real success. I didn’t feel like my fingers were too short (and I’m no E.T. or anything). Rather, I slid the pinched cup up there longways, and when it got to where it needed to go (approximately the point where you push a non-applicator tampon up to), it righted itself naturally.

Removal is a bit messy if you’re not careful, and it’s entirely possible this is a whole different ballgame after kids, but I wash my hands thoroughly after inserting a tampon, too, so no big.

 
Karl | 2006-08-22 15:09:52

Ah, my eyes! My eyes! Why did I read this?!

 
Vicky | 2006-08-22 15:32:11

I’ve thought about trying one of these, but always wondered how you could wash it in a public washroom. People say you can just dump it out in the toilet and re-insert and wash it later when you’re at home, but if it makes that much of a mess do I really want to be exiting the stall looking like I just butchered a cow with my bare hands? G.R.O.S.S!

Thanks for the review Izzy. I’ll stick to my environmentally unsound sanitary supplies thank you very much.

…and poor Karl with his eyes. I hope he stopped the burning.

 
Boutros | 2006-08-22 15:47:33

I had a friend who tried these as well AND got one stuck and had to call her boyfriend in for assistance. That pretty much put the big NOT on me ever trying them.

 
Carmen | 2006-08-22 16:29:46

I like these things. I’d rather use them than a tampon - I have lousy luck with those.

To each his own, eh?

 
mothergoosemouse | 2006-08-22 18:37:29

I’m not convinced either. And thanks to my lovely copper IUD, my flow is nothing to experiment with. I stick to what works.

 
fidget | 2006-08-22 19:45:09

yeah i think I’ll stick with the ‘pons and the phone book thick pads

eeeeeewwwwww

 
Karen Rani | 2006-08-22 20:04:10

I wish you had told me - I had a ton of that stuff, and my period didn’t even show up that weekend. Kids totally screw our systems.

 
Stacy | 2006-08-22 20:58:49

I’ve never heard of these things either. Thanks for the education. I’ll try them if I can find them. I’ll let you know how it goes.

 
Mom101 | 2006-08-22 21:40:33

Oh man, I have this image of ET saying in his warbly little voice, Suuuuupeeeeer Pluuuuuuuus

 
Blog_Antagonist | 2006-08-23 00:30:30

I have heard that the Diva Cup is MUCh easier to use, but it’s pricey…about $35. I almost bought some of these at Target during my last period. I’m very glad I didn’t! I think I’m going to go ahead with the Diva Cup.

 
roo | 2006-08-23 01:22:27

You know, a friend of mine uses something like that (I think it’s called The Keeper) and she swears by it. But I fear I’d be in the same boat as you, needing finger extensions every time I had to deal with the damn thing. Plus, is it good for your cervix to be in a constant bath of waste blood? The thought of it is a little yucky…

 
Her Bad Mother | 2006-08-23 02:23:08

OMFG.

Seriously.

I’m laughing and cringing and thinking about buying stock in Tampax.

 
Petite Mommy | 2006-08-23 12:33:02

I have heard of these but do not like the whole idea of them so I wont even try them anytime soon plus I’m lucky in that my flow is light. I know, TMI. Sorry.

 
wordgirl | 2006-08-23 13:15:11

Who idea, anyway? The cups, I mean. Too gross.

 
LOL at all the yuck! people | 2006-08-23 17:52:19

Never tried the disposable type but I use a mooncup (like the Diva) and after taking their advice sticking with it through the first month regardless (learning curve), I found the second month that I’d sussed it. Never used anything else since — I have a heavy flow and now happily just don’t worry about it, a freedom I couldn’t have imagined before. You have to not uck-out at touching yourself but you shouldn’t get messy and once you learn to slot it in, it’s easy.

And for what it’s worth, I have short fingers. ;)

 
Ruth Dynamite | 2006-08-23 19:19:29

From the makers of Cup-o-Soup…

I admire your adventurousness for even trying these in the first place, Izzy.

 
mamatulip | 2006-08-23 22:20:29

I’m so glad you posted about these…we saw a commercial for them last night and Dave was like, “I’m getting THOSE FOR YOU!” He was more excited than he should really have been.

 
theotherbear | 2006-08-24 02:29:31

Hahaha. I think I need one of those things right now. I’d put one over each eye, as mine are now bleeding from reading that post and its’ comments!

 
shpprgrl | 2006-08-24 02:44:55

That is soooo funny and also very scary. I have a similar story, but it would definitely be TMI….haha! That ET stuff is hilarious! I will remember to stay away from these too!

 
yadayada | 2006-08-26 05:32:37

I used to use Instead back in 1996 and I liked them. The best part was being able to have sex while having your period and not having it look like a massacre took place, if you know what I mean. I never had issues with insertion or removal, and I certainly liked the idea of not sticking bleached wads of cotton inside me for hours at a time. I still use tampons now, but keep the Insteads around too. Slightly messy, but not any more than pulling on a string and trying to keep the bloody mass from falling down into the toilet while I organize a wad of toilet paper to wrap it in.

By the way, I saw a woman-produced film in “Intro to Feminism” class of a woman inserting a tampon with one hand. Can anyone actually do that? I have never been able to do this. I have a hard enough time with two hands trying to push in the plunger without the entire apparatus disappearing inside me. I am serious. Am I doing something wrong? I’ve only been having periods for 20 years!

 
Melissa b. | 2006-10-30 18:25:35

I use these but I have to alternate with tampons because I cannot, for the life of me, take it out without some spillage.

I have short fingers and I tend to sort of pinch the cup to insert it (if I have to make the business end a little wet, so be it), which can take some getting used to. When I get it back far enough (you don’t go up so much as back, I can push it up under my pubic bone. When I can feel that it’s behind that, and situated up there, I’m good.

It’s great for sex and for allowing your natural moisture to happen instead of a tampon sucking the life out of one’s vagina.

However, I always spill or make some sort of a mess so I never feel like I can put a new one in right after another. I have to put a tampon in after each one, but still it’s much better than all tampons all the time.

 

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